Sunday, November 4, 2012

In the Land of a Time Warp

Updating my blog as often as I should, is a lost dream. I'm living in a world where there is always something to see, people to talk to, and events going on. I feel like Summer flew by without even a blink and my time in Korea will come to an end faster than I can anticipate. I am getting extremely nervous about the next step in my life because I fear that no matter what I do, it will never compare to this experience. Living in a foreign country is initially about the culture and adapting to a completely new life. Then, you become settled in this life and start building friendships and a social life that are hard to compare to relationships back home. Please don't misunderstand because I have great friendships and life-long bonds with my friends back home. However, in Korea I have been lucky enough to meet people that have become my family. We vacation, spend holidays, laugh, drink, cry, complain, and work together. I'm not sure if I will find this anywhere else. As it has been said, it is better to have loved and lost. I know that one day, I will move on and go on to another adventure and make new friends. But, the people I have met here will always be special and remain as a huge part of this experience for me. With that said, I have been very busy living and experiencing adventures that other people may only read about. Since my last post, I have celebrated Chuseok (Korean Thanksgiving), had my two friends from home visit, gone to Boracay, saw a Korean Baseball game, went on a Buddhist Temple Stay, and much more. BORACAY: My two co-workers and I planned a vacation for our summer break to Boracay, Phillipines. I was extremely nervous to go because everyone told me how dangerous the Phillipines were. We were three girls traveling by ourselves to a dangerous land, so naturally I was cautious. When we arrived in Manila, we took a small plane to Caticlan, then took a ferry boat to Boracay. When we arrived on the island, a worker from the hotel picked us up and we were put into mini tricycle cabs to take us to the resort. As we were driving through the small town I became very depressed. The town was dirty, run-down, shacks for houses, children in dirty clothes and no shoes, and people cooking food on an open fire pit. I was very sad and a little concerned about how much better it was going to get. We arrived at our resort and it was very touristy and right off the beach. However, the road behind the hotel was exactly like what we had just driven through. It disgusted me to think that I was staying in a resort and eating hot meals multiple times a day, when people right across the road weren't wearing shoes. I tried to enjoy myself however, and was fortunate enough to meet many foreign teachers from Korea staying around us. We ended up having a quiet and calm vacation. However, I would never go back to the Phillipines. I never fully felt relaxed or comfortable. It was a nice time, but I wouldn't suggest going there. CHUSEOK: This holiday is a Korean holiday that celebrates family and the harvest. We had three days off from work and my two friends from home came to visit. I was so unbelievably happy to see them and show them Korea. It's very hard to try to explain Korea and the experience accurately. So, I was happy to show my friends my life and have them see for themselves. We had a great time together and saw many things. We went to museums, palaces, temples, and the fish market. They wanted to try live octopus so we went to a restaurant in the fish market and bought an octopus. They chopped him up and we ate away! It was horrible! However, it was definitely an experience that they will never forgert. Other than the touristy things, my friends also got to experience my everyday life. They came to school with me, met my students, saw my work, met my co-workers, drank outside the convienence store, and explored my little city of Ilsan. I didn't realize how happy I was that they were here until I dropped them off at the airport. I started to cry when saying goodbye. It was so great to have a little piece of home for a week because Korea may be busy with people and activities, but home is home and it's nice to have that reminder. TEMPLE STAY: I spent a weekend living in a Buddhist Temple in the mountains for Korea. We learned many Buddhist traditions and participated in the daily ceremonies. We made a lotus lantern and prayer beads to keep as well. The most interesting part was the food at a Buddhist temple. It is common Korean food, such as rice, kimchi, soup, and vegetables. However, you must eat everything that is placed infront of you because wasting food is not acceptable in Buddhism. Also, after we finished eating we had to clean the bowls with water and then drink the water! It wasn't as horrible as it sounds, but definitely not my first choice of beverage. The other difficult thing was doing 108 standing to floor bows at 5:30am. By bow number 50 I was feeling weak in my legs and in my head. However, I finished and felt accomplished. KOREAN BASEBALL: Towards the end of September, I went to a Korean Baseball game at the Olympic Park Complex outside Seoul. This is a professional baseball game and the tickets were only $10! We had great seats close to the field, but far enough away to watch the people and fans at the game. What amazed me most, is that people do not just sit, watch the game, and cheer when a good play happens. Oh no, they stand the entire time and have multiple choreographed cheers. There is a couple of cheerleaders and a hype-man that dances around with a microphone on top of the dugout. He will call out something in Korean, and then everyone in the stands starts moving their arms together and singing a chant. I discovered later that every team has these cheers on their websites and you can learn the dances and moves before the games. It was an experience unlike any sporting event I have ever been to and I am so glad I went. Now it is time to wrap up this blog. It is late, on a Sunday night and Mallory Teacher needs her sleep or the monsters will destroy her tomorrow :) I say it everytime I write a post, I can't believe how fast the time has flown. I have been in Korea, this time, for over 8 months and I still remember walking into my apartment for the first time. I still recall cleaning and setting up my new home, the first time I met my current family, and the joy of meeting my students for the first time. Here I am now, with less than 4 months to go and I wish I could slow time down in order to enjoy and appreciate it more. Until next time....

Sunday, June 10, 2012

Ignorance and Hospitality Do Not Mix

Wow, it's been two and a half months since my last post. Slacking is an understatement! I have thought a lot about writing a post, but nothing has really come to mind until recently. There has been an uproar lately in the foreign community regarding a news story about foreigners. I decided to write about this because I will never be able to accept or comprehend the lack of sensibility in the Korean media or culture. The news story was aired about two weeks ago and it discussed the growing relationships between foreign men and Korean women. The piece depicted foreign men as "hunters" who use their Jedi powers into seducing Korean women, therefore making these women victims. It was an absolutely disgusting portrayl of foreigners. The news story continued on to say that foreigners are extremely sexually active and most likely have diseases such as HIV/AIDS. First, how can a woman be a victim of dating?? She can be a victim of other things, but forcing someone to date is not possible and does not result in a victim. Korean women choose to date foreign men for several reasons. Whether she likes the attention from the public of being with a foreigner, or maybe she actually likes that person! There has been action taken by the foreign community regarding this absurd "news" story. A petition has been started to demand an apology from the president of MBS News and over 2,000 people from all over the world have signed. It seems the Korean culture is doing everything to push foreigners out of their country. Before I came to Korea, I read all about Korean hospitality and how welcoming Korean people are. In my 16 months in this country, only on a few, rare occassions have people been warm and welcoming to myself or friends. I always expect to be treated second-rate and as if I don't matter and that is usually the case. What I don't understand the most, is how important it is in Korean culture and society to exceed in education and work. Korea is always striving to be better, smarter, and more successful than all Asian countries. Therefore, if you want your children to learn English, then you need an English speaking person to teach them. THEREFORE, foreigners would have to live in this country! If the Korean media and culture continue to treat foreigners like this, then we may not come here anymore. We might just go to Japan! It continues to amazes me, and not in a postive way, the closed-mindedness of this society. From a young age, Koreans are told what is true, what to believe, and to never believe differently. Nothing is right, unless it is the Korean way. Food isn't healthy for you, unless it's Korean. People lie, cheat and steal, unless they are Korean. Everything is the world is dangerous, unless you are in Korea. Which brings me to my next point. For 23 years, I lived in America. A country where most Korean people believe is filled with guns, violence, and murder. However, in the time I lived there, I was never a victim of any crime. In the short time I have lived in Korea, I have been robbed and had my identity stolen. Two major crimes that never resulted in an arrest or justice because I am a foreigner. I still have resentment from these events and will always carry that with me. Ok, I have been ranting for a while about this, but I am extremely bothered by the news story. That rage has been accumulating and creating even more thoughts in my mind. However, I never will regret my time in Korea. If anything, I have learned a lot about how to tolerate close-minded people and how to politely deal with other's ignorance. Aside from the drama, I have been doing a few adventurous things recently. I went to Gyeongju, which is a beautiful town in the Southern part of Korea. I spent the weekend hiking, bike riding, and mountain climbing. I also have been seeing many friends lately, and continuing to build friendships I created last year. I went for the second year to the Lantern Festival for Buddha's Birthday. School has been okay, yes just okay. My students are very different from last year. These kids are less affectionate, less interested, and more spoiled. It sounds awful, but I am so sick and tired of hearing "But teacher, Mommy said ok." Ugh, I bite my tongue everyday! However, the staff of the school makes up for last year. I have an amazing boss, as I've stated before, and he continues to be amazing! I have become closer with my co-workers and look forward to getting to know them more as the year progresses. My goal is to try and write 2-3 posts a month. I'm setting goals for myself and I plan to keep them!

Tuesday, March 27, 2012

The Advice Column

I can't believe how quickly the time has flown by. I have already been in Korea for five weeks and I already feel so comfortable here again. My new and old friends have been keeping me busy and I have spent so much time exploring my new city. I can't wait to start doing more things once the weather warms up. Come on spring, where are you!?

For this post, I have decided to write an advice column about the things that I have learned over the past year and have remembered in the past five weeks. My new chingues in Ilsan are still learning about Korea and the way of the country, so I decided to put this in my blog. So here it goes!

The Official List of What I Wish I Knew Before...

What to bring (and not to bring):
-Deodorant! I can't express this enough! Deodorant can only be found in foreign markets, and it is about 3 times the price. Also, they most likely will not have your favorite brand. Koreans don't need to wear deodorant, ever. They sweat, but don't emit body-odor. Grrr to them!

-Floss. I was able to find floss at HomePlus, but it looks pretty sketchy and I don't trust it. I would like to know if anyone has tried it, but I brought 8 containers of floss anyway.

-Ladies, don't fret. Tampons, even Western brands, are everywhere. The first year I was here I brought a year supply because everyone told me to, but I got here and was shocked to see Playtex and Tampax at HomePlus and Lotte Mart. Also, they are only about 2-3 dollars more than home.

-Medications. If you require special meds for any condition, make sure to bring enought to last you until a friend or family member can send more. That also goes for over-the-counter meds. I brought Nyquil and Sinus meds with me because Korea has a very strict policy on medication. Their meds, even cold meds, are usually weak because Korea is so anti-drug.

-Memories from home. The first year I was here, my suitcases consisted of clothes, tampons, and toiletries. Skip the tampons and toiletries and be sure to pack special things from home. Pictures, a stuffed animal, a special statue or figurine, or anything that you want to have. It's more important to feel comforted with things that remind you of home then to have the fourteen bottles of shampoo.

-Make-up. No need to bring! Korean women are very into their looks and appearance that beauty supply stores are everywhere and their products are good quality. Some people will warn you about using facial creams here because they have whitneing agents in them. However, if the cream does, it is usually labeled. Korean's want to have white skin, so they bleach their skin. If you want products from home, Maybelline and Covergirl are very popular and only a couple dollars more.

-Toiletries. My advice is to bring travel size shampoo, conditioner, body wash, and lotion. This is just to get you through the first couple days until you can go to the store. I love the shampoo I purchased here. It's called Mise En Scene and my hair feels great! Also, they have brands from home if you're nervous about trying something else. Body wash and lotion comes in a huge variety and I have never been unsatissfied.

-Toothpaste. I like the Korean brand and have had no complaints about my breath :) However, if you're particular to something from home then bring it because you will NOT find it here.

-Clothes. Everyone will say that if you are a bigger person, then bring lots of clothes. This is really only true for guys. Taller guys will have trouble, but girls will be able to find lots of clothes! This can be a dangerous thing if you like to shop! Unless you are an abnormally tall or large girl, then don't worry about being able to find clothes.

-Shoes. Also very dangerous. Korean's love their shoes! I pair of cute high heels will only set you back about 15-20 dollars. In American sizes, I can wear anything from a 7.5-8.5 depending on the shoe. I fall into the larger sizes for Korean shoes. So that would be a 245-250 in Korean sizes.

-Adapters, Converters. Make sure you have all your electronics sorted out for converters or adapters. It will make your technological life so much better!

Where to go for...
-Dentist. Korean dentists are somewhat of a new concept here. The dentists don't have to practice any particular hygenic rules when it comes to patients. I have heard horror stories of people going to Korean dentists and the dentists not wearing gloves or washing their hands. So, when I had to have a wisdom tooth removed, I did my research! I found a wonderful dentist in Gangnam (a bit far, but worth it for my teeth) who is certified by the American Dental Association and practices according to American dental standards. Everything is clean and you definitely feel at home in her office. It is called Tufts Dental Clinic.

-Doctor. You will soon discover that Korean's go to the hospital for everything. If they have a cough or even a small cut on their finger, they go to the hospital. Most hospitals will have English speaking staff, but since you are foreign, you can probably tough it out with a band-aid.

-Internet. When you first arrive in Korea. You will most likely not have internet access. This is easily solved with a lovely haven called a PC Room. It is a room filled with computers and costs about 1 dollar per hour. It will usually be filled with kids playing computer games.


What to be open-minded about:
EVERYTHING. Nothing upsets me more, than foreigners who come to Korea and have an attitude when things aren't the same back home. You are in a foreign country! The point of coming here was for new experiences and not all experiences are going to be pleasant! Just remember, you are a guest here and will always be treated as a second-rate citizen because you are not Korean. Deal with it, and move on. Don't let the few negative things, effect your whole experience.

What to do while in Korea:
-DMZ. It's a must! I am going again. Even if you aren't a huge War-buff, it's still great to go. You actually get to see and walk a part of history!

-Jeju Island. This is a tough one for me, but if you have the time and money, it's nice to go to a tropical place. I had a great time, but one time is enough for me.

-Busan. If you like the beach and you like being on a beach with 500,000+ people then hit up Busan. The nightlife is pretty amazing too!

-MudFest. This is a festival celelbrating the special mud in Boeryong (I'm not making this up). Basically, you just get muddy and drunk and pass out on the beach. Just like Jeju, I did it once and that's enough :)

-The War Memorial. This is up for debate. If you enjoy history and want to learn more about Korea, then go! I wanted to take pictures for my grandfather who was in the Korean war and I had a very humbling experience at the War Memorial. The museum focuses mostly on the Korean War, but also highlights the wars in Korean history. It was a nice day trip and very educational.

-The Lantern Festival. This was absolutely breath-taking! The lanterns are gorgeous and colorful and are everywhere! I would suggest the Insa-dong area for a great experience. Also, you get to see a lot of the Buddhist traditions come alive in Korea as well. Make sure to get a good spot for the parade as well!

How to behave in Korea:
-On the Subway or Bus. Since you are foreign, you are expected to abide by all the rules of Korea and if you put one toe out of line, people will get angry with you. So when you are on the bus or subway, it is an unspoken, but very strict rule, that you do not talk or make noise. It may seem ridiculous but this is Korea. Even if you are sitting next to your friend and whispering, people may look at you with a nasty look. Also, the subways have reserved seats for the handicapped, elderly, and families, so DO NOT sit there! It is very frowned up. If the reserved seats are full and you were lucky enough to have snagged a regular seat, always be cautious. If someone who needs a reserved seat gets on the subway, you should offer your seat to them. BUT, if it is someone who is elderly, make sure they are VERY elderly. You don't want to offend a middle aged woman by offering your seat. They aren't so kind when you suggest that they are old! I learned that the hard way haha!

-In Public. Kind of the same as on the subway or bus, but when you are walking down the street try not to be too loud. Whether it's talking or laughing, do it quietly and with as little attention as possible. You will notice that some Korean people do not follow these rules, but you are foreign and people take more notice to if you do something wrong versus a Korean person.

-At the Store. Again, quietness is the number one rule. However, at the store it is always loud and busting with people and families. Try to stay close to your cart and leisurely looking at items is considered odd. So make it snappy!

-In General. Just always try to be respectful. Whether it's in a cab, paying for something, or asking a question. Do not walk up to someone and just start speaking English. It is quite offensive. How would you feel if someone just walked up to you and started speaking Korean? Clearly you aren't Korean, so why would you expect someone to be a fluent English speaker in Korea. So, try to learn some basic conversational questions in Korean.


WOW! This is a long blog, but I am glad I was able to write about everything I wish I had known before. If anyone has any questions or wants further clarification, then please leave a comment!

As far as my personal life so far, I am currently getting over being sick :( Almost all of my students have colds right now and since my kids love hugging, climbing, and touching me, I got sick too! Hand sanitizer only goes so far. Other than that, things have been pretty mundane but once the weather gets warmer, I'll be exploring a lot more! Off for now! Have a great week everyone!

Monday, February 27, 2012

Round Two....Here We Go!

It's been six months since my last blog, and so many wonderful things have happened in this time. I feel so blessed to have spent that time at home with my friends and family. After I settled in, I started working a part-time job and enjoying the time I craved so dearly while being in Korea. Now, I am sitting in my apartment in Ilsan, Korea and reflecting on the memories of Michigan.

Other than working at home, I was able to spend all the great American holidays with my family. This past Halloween, Thanksgiving, and Christmas will be the ones that I'll remember when I'm homesick for the next round of holidays. My mom and I created and explosion of Christmas in our house and the hours we spent was worth the pride of our creation. I was able to be in my best friend's wedding, and be apart of such an epic step in her and her husband's lives. My time was also spent re-connecting with family members and sharing in great experiences with them. How lucky am I?! I have been in Korea for one week, and even though the homesickness will always be lurking in the background, I can't help but think how incredible this year is going to be.

Saying good-bye is always hard, but this time was even harder. The last time I said goodbye to my family, I was unbelievably sad, scared, and a little excited about coming to Korea. This time, I was so excited about this adventure, but even more sad. When I left for the first journey, I had no idea what it actually felt like to be away from home for one year. After experiencing how difficult it can be, it was so much harder to walk away from my parents and sister at the airport one week ago. I know what it feels like, and all I kept thinking on the airplane is "Why am I putting myself through this again?" But just after one week of a new city, new school, and new friends, I have my answer.

Ilsan is just amazing. There are no other words to describe how comfortable I am here. There is an incredible energy in the city and the people are so much more laid-back. Everything I could ever need, material-wise, is right outside my door. I live in the cutest little apartment that I have already decorated to make it my own. I am so proud of my home! The friends I have made are so awesome and I am in awe of how great I get along with everyone. I have also re-connected with my original friends from Uijeongbu and it doesn't even feel like six months have gone by. This sense of establishment in just one week makes me feel that round two of Korea is going to be a lot different from the first.

To say that my school is perfect, is an understatement. The staff is just wonderful. They are so nice and, unlike last time, the Korean teachers do not discriminate against the foreign teahers. We are treated as equal employees at the school. The bosses could qualify as the best bosses in the entire world! Sounds cheesy, but it's true. Anything, and I mean anything, that I want or desperately need they will do everything they can to provide it. I was apprehensive to ask about internet in my apartment, but when I did, the bosses had the internet installed before I got home from work that day. Anything I purchase for my apartment will be paid for half by the school. It's very traditional and customary in Korea to take care of people around you, so the school provides two meals everyday for the teachers. If we are ever sick or need ANYTHING, the school will help. What lucky straw did I pull?! The school is the same as ECC in the sense that it is a private school and the parents expect a lot from the teachers, but minus the pressure of completing an almost impossible list of ridiculous tasks, I know that I will be able to put my soul into being a great teacher.

My parents were extrememly apprehensive about me returning to Korea. They had good reason too. After the not so great experiences of last year, I tried to re-assure them that this year was going to be different. I did my research on the school, talked to people who worked there, and communicated with the supervisor. My hard-worked paid off and I have set myself up in one of the best jobs I could ever ask for. My parents are so happy and feel almost relaxed about their baby girl living in a foreign county 6,000+ miles away.

My goal this year is to experience everything that I didn't the first time. I want to do the usual touristy things, but I also want to do things that people would never do if they just visited Korea. I want to go to a hot spring, do a temple-stay and live like a monk for the weekend, hike up the Soyosan mountain, volunteer at an orphanage, boat ride down the Han River, and so much more. I hope you all continue to enjoy reading my blog and welcome back to another year in my Seoul!